When classmates fall in love

Corzhens

Corzhens

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What can the teacher do when classmates fall in love? This is common in the senior high school students that they begin to learn about love and they were in that stage to test their knowledge. I was in an all-girls school during high school but I have some classmates with boyfriends from other schools. What more if we have male classmates I'm sure the act of having a relationship would be prevalent. What is your take on this issue, does the teacher have a role in that kind of relationship that should be prevented or aborted?
 
I do not think that teacher should interfere in such situations. Let students do what they want to do! Love is not a thing to be played with, you know. The only thing teacher could do is showing support and happiness because students fell in love. But trying to forbid such love is a big no!
 
I think we should know first the policy of the school. If there is a restriction, then the teacher has the right to talk with them gently to follow the rules and regulations of the school.
 
I am not against with student who fall in love. It's a feeling that anyone experience. We get to learn from it and let them experience. They should be given respect and right to decide on their own. My only concern is to guide those students in a right direction. They should know their priority and limit.
 
I think there is nothing wrong about having a relationship of a students as long as they know their limit, and at there age, its an early stage for falling in love, let them be. You as a teacher let yourself as their guidance as a second mother to them.
 
The teacher doesn't really have any right to interfere with their student's personal life unless they're given legal guardianship over a child. A teacher can only advise and guide but not interfere. Relationships and love is just something that is natural and something that no one can really do about. I believe that the more strict someone is in handling teen romances, the worst the situation will be.
 
Falling in love is a natural thing. There is nothing wrong for falling in love regardless of your age. However, if we don't guide our students on how to handle this kind of emotion, it can lead result to a negative effect on their studies. We, as teachers and as their second parents should guide them how can they handle that kind emotion for the better.
 
I think that dating between students is their own business and shouldn't be interfered by parents or teachers unless it affects their academic results and social life badly. In these two cases, it's the parents and teacher's duty to educate them on properly maintaining a relationship.
 
Not all students are really matured enough to handle it go into a relationship at that young age. In most cases it tends to affect their performance in their studies.
 
I think that dating between students is their own business and shouldn't be interfered by parents or teachers unless it affects their academic results and social life badly.
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Ditto.

Teenagers will naturally want to explore love. Teachers should let them be. Just be clear that you'll entertain no public displays of affection in class. Also, if the "love birds" sit near each other you could change the seating arrangement so they'll be some distance away from each other. Leave the rest to the parents.

I think there is no reason why teen relationships should terrify teachers and students. Movies, TV shows and social media have got everyone to think they are missing out on something if they are not in relationship. Try to forbid this and it could cause more problems because they could seek "love" elsewhere and who knows who the kids will meet on the internet?

In fact it is even safer for everyone when classmates fall in love because then you can monitor how the relationship progresses and intervene if it proves to be unhealthy for either party.
 
As a teacher, whose goal is to help students learn effectively, I think it will be a good idea not to verbally reprimand and embarrass two students who are attracted to each other in front of their classmates. That is going to be traumatic on their part. I guess it would be best to let them be, as being attracted to the opposite sex, especially during adolescent and teenage years, is in itself a good learning experience.
 
Well, students have the freedom to like someone from their class. As a teacher, you always have to guide them. Also, you have to let them realize the consequences of their decisions. They should always be guided.
 
Sometimes it is not love,it is infatuation and the fear of being left behind as they advance in age.In most cases,such relationships have a negative impact on academic performance as they start excelling in their other businesses.Hormones play tricks on youngsters and some may bite what they can't chew.
 
I don't think it's really an issue provided that the students are around the same age. I think it becomes problematic when there's an age gap - for instance, if a 16 year old was dating an 11 year old! At that age, a gap like that is really significant.

If they're the same age, and it's not impacting their studies, I don't think it's a big problem.
 
I teach in a high school. I am sure most of the boys and girls in my class have girlfriends/boyfriends. However, they afre ver secretive about theri affairs. I think they are secretive because they know it i not right age to build a love relationship. Love relationship can go dangetuous when the the girl and boy are young. They do not know about STD and STI. Girls are more vinerable because unprotected sex can make them pregnant. The teachers must tackle this issue very seriously.
 
NikSuks said:
I do not think that teacher should interfere in such situations. Let students do what they want to do! Love is not a thing to be played with, you know. The only thing teacher could do is showing support and happiness because students fell in love. But trying to forbid such love is a big no!
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If the teacher knows about the love affair of the students I guess the teacher should inform the parents otherwise the responsibility will be on the shoulders of the teacher and that would put him on a big disadvantage. Think if the female student gets pregnant? Or what if one student commits suicide because of that love affair? The investigation would yield the details surrounding the love affair in the school and the teacher will definitely be in question.
 
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