Life Partners

[AzH]

Is the notion of a partner for life still valid? Marriage and 'til death do us part' was introduced in a time when life expectancy was maybe 30, or 40 years. 'Til death do us part' meant 10 or 20 years at the most. But now, with our medical advancements, it's a much longer sentence.

Can anyone really spend their life with the same person? Imagine marrying at 20 and living until 90. SEVENTY years of the same poontang. Isn't that just crazy?

I think that we need as a society, to move on from this notion that you'll meet, love and marry just one person in life.

What do you think?

 

[AlphaCharlie]

I dunno, AzH, do you think you can truly love freely and without reservation if you know it's a temporary stop on the road to sexual and emotional gratification? I don't know if I would want to bother with love and companionship under that pretense. That's just me though.

 

[Taylor V. Smith]

I've been married three and a half years. My intention is to remain with my wife until death. So far so good.

 

[nacho]

I see no reason with this notion. I mean that is what marriage is for and they do have the whole till death do us part. But, to some death is not the end and we hope beyond hope that even after death we are allowed to be with the one person who matters the most to us. Without that person we are lost and empty. I know because I have someone like that who makes me feel complete. And I would give my life for her if need be without hesitation. I guess it all depends on what your definition of life really is? That would be the more pertinent question. And then you go from there

 

[fokerss]

it depend on you think that marry is what meaning to you.

 

[AlphaCharlie]

If the institution of marriage were dissolved, I wonder how kids would be raised? Would they stay (primarily) as attachments of the mother? Would it be better if all offspring be raised by a state/government institution since the adults life is in a semi-permanent state of flux? Would schools transition into boarding schools; neutral territory where the children's respective fathers and mothers could visit?

I dunno. Life would look very different/messy without the nuclear-family concept.

 

[Billy Wizz]

I believe in marriage for life. one nan and grandad have been married 60 years and still going strong. Unfortunatley my grandad died for my other Nan. So my mum and dad have been married 30 years and going strong. It depends on the two people that are tying the knot and how honest they are. I have always seen married life as forever. If I say 'til death do us part' then I mean it and ill try and keep it.
I try and stick to a quote in scarface: All I have in this world is my balls and my word and I don't break them for no one
lol

Peace

 

[Molzahn]

My interpretation of this dilemma is based on inherent nature. If we look at the mating habits of the vol for instance, we can see that based on their genetics they were either prone to monogamy or promiscuity (serial monogamy being part of that umbrella).

If it's in your nature to stay with one person until you die than you should follow your nature, and vice versa for those who aren't predisposed to such attachment.

 

[AzH]

I dunno, AzH, do you think you can truly love freely and without reservation if you know it's a temporary stop on the road to sexual and emotional gratification? I don't know if I would want to bother with love and companionship under that pretense. That's just me though.

I'm not saying it is temporary, just that we should not say "for life" because "for life" is a very long time. The longest time you'll ever know or understand (in this life, I'd like to add, before my spiritually intouch friend wades in with an infinite love speech).

 

[AlphaCharlie]

@AzH - Wouldn't anything less then "for life" be defined as temporary?

 

[stinamarie1225]

I love the man I am with, and plan to spend the rest of my life with him. He is amazing and very much worth it. Hopefully, this will mean getting married

 

[Hawkins]

It's not really a problem of society. Just because you can't make up your mind at stick to your decisions doesn't mean that society is wrong for not 'letting' you to change partners whenever you want. It doesn't really stop you either.

 

[xxrangexx]

I really do think that as humans we are not getting to the era where we just want to go out and have sex as much as possible, with as many people as possible. Alot of married couples now cheat on each other or heck some even become swingers and hook up with other married couples or even single people. I just think the way the world is changing is what is affecting how long people stay married for.

 

[Krishna Nepal]

I believe in the concept of "partners for life" but sadly this does not happen in most of the people's life. Most of us are tied to a wrong person. For a lot of us it is just a business contract, "I give you something, you give me something"

 

[Maxi Lopez]

The key to long lasting marriage is finding the right partner for yourself and also being tolerant with your partner. It is never a bed of roses all the time which means that you have to adjust and tolerate some certain things in order for you to live with someone for a very long time.

 

[Charlie Williams]

Marriage is a big leap and a responsibility for a life time. It takes courage and love. I hope you find worth all of it!

 

[Maxi Lopez]

Charlie Williams You're right about marriage needing both courage and love to thrive but you forgot tolerance. Without having tolerance in the union, the couple with break up almost immediately.