Can you forgive an abusive partner?

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Henry Chibuike

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Letting go of a person who you have loved all your life is never easy. Can you say that it is easy for you to forgive someone who has physically or emotionally abused you in any way?
 
Henry Chibuike said:
Letting go of a person who you have loved all your life is never easy. Can you say that it is easy for you to forgive someone who has physically or emotionally abused you in any way?
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Forgiveness can be a complex and personal process, especially when it comes to forgiving an abusive partner or loved one.

For me, it's important to assess the severity of the abuse as it means different things to different people. Next, understanding the context is crucial, as the reasons for abuse can vary depending on the relationship, whether it's with a spouse or a child. If there's a justifiable* reason for the behaviour, I tend to view it more rationally. This idea is often shown in stories where a character's actions are justified under extreme circumstances.
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  • Doctrine of Double Effect, attributed to Thomas Aquinas, posits that an action causing harm can be morally permissible if the harm is not the intended outcome but a side effect of achieving a greater good. This principle is often applied in medical ethics and wartime decisions.
  • Utilitarianism - The Vulcan approach to life. The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few. :vulcan:
  • Lesser Evil Principle -Similar to utilitarianism, when all choices involve some harm, choosing the option that results in the least harm is justified.
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In a more personal context, it's important to prioritise your own well-being and safety above all else. While forgiveness can be a powerful tool for healing, it doesn't mean you have to continue a relationship with the abuser or excuse their behaviour. It's okay to take the time you need to heal and seek support from loved ones or professionals. Remember, forgiveness is a journey and it's okay if it's not easy or immediate. Take care of yourself first.
 
NO!! I wouldn't have anything to do with an abusive partner and not to talk about forgetting and forgiving her for the torture and horror she put me through. I will never advice anyone to stay in a toxic and abusive relationship for any reason whatsoever.
 
No, I cannot. Even though they say you should be really forgiving, I cannot imagine to forgive anyone who has been abusive towards me. I don't go into revenge, that's not my thing but I don't forgive.
 
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